If you have a partner you love dearly, and you are building an amazing and fulfilling life with them, you might find it tough to be apart from them for any extended period of time.
You might miss their presence, their scent, and the regular rituals that you share. It can be jarring to have your life, that is so synchronized with another person, all of a sudden shift when they are no longer around.
Fortunately, there are ways you can weave these periods into your life smoothly and without upset.
You can stay connected with your partner, even when you are not physically together (and not just by FaceTiming them).
May this provide some inspiration to you and yours in your partnership.
Here is how Geneva and I stay connected when we are apart:
- We Talk. This might seem like the ABC’s, but it bears being a part of this list because as a wise person said, “Love is a function of communication.” I can personally go without it for long periods and be fine. I have a “lone wolf” tendency and so being in regular communication didn’t always come naturally to me. But since being with Geneva and discovering for myself what a difference communication makes, now I’m in communication with her daily when I’m away (unless we’ve created something otherwise).
- We create and complete everything. If there’s something we typically do that is not going to happen because we’re apart, we acknowledge it. And if there’s something additional we need to do, like check in at a certain time, we create that together. Bottom line is: we don’t just let things slide by. We use calendars rigorously to manage what happens in our life and when something doesn’t happen it never (okay, rarely) slips through the cracks. The two of us create whatever happens between us in our life. We say what we want to have happen, or acknowledge when things don’t go the way we want. Then we go from there. Being on the same page is critical.
- We listen for what the other person needs to express. Every time we get on the phone, I love the way Geneva is a space for what I want to share. Whether it is about what happened during the day, or what I want to create next in my business. In turn, I provide the same space for her. This allows us to keep up with each other as people, with experiences, and it makes the process of re-integrating after being apart much smoother.
I hope this provides you with something you can implement with your partner.
If you want to see more of the life Geneva and I are creating you can view our YouTube channel or check out our other posts about marriage and partnership.